I admit, most of my close friends that I have now days have been my close friends for many years (some as long as elementary school). We do our "Girls Night Out" while the guys either stay home with the kids or have their poker nights. We go together to bridal and baby showers, and as much as I hate to admit it, we send messages via Facebook to stay connected more than we do pick up the phone. However, with some having new babies and some running around to activities for their kids, messaging through Facebook when it's quiet and we have a brief second before heading off to bed for the night.
Recently I was told about a great opportunity one of my closest friend's husband has for a job opportunity several hours away from where we all live now. As happy as I am for them, I also feel an empty pit deep in my stomach because I know if he is blessed enough to get this position, it means many more conversations through Facebook, but many less in person visits.
Today we had a bridal shower for another friend and as we were sitting together in the heat and nasty humidity outside, I kept thinking about how this could be the last. The last shower we go to together. The last girl time we spend together for quite some time. The last of this phase of our friendship as we know it. I try to put on the happy face, but at the same time I feel empty. Empty that I'm losing a great friend. Sure, she will still be there. Sure, she will only be a phone call away. But she won't be there to attend all the showers with me, watch the fireworks with me as our kids play. She won't be there in the same way she has been for many years. It will all change. It will be a different change. But I know we will still be friends, changes or no changes, gains or losses. We will be friends for life.
Recently I was told about a great opportunity one of my closest friend's husband has for a job opportunity several hours away from where we all live now. As happy as I am for them, I also feel an empty pit deep in my stomach because I know if he is blessed enough to get this position, it means many more conversations through Facebook, but many less in person visits.
Today we had a bridal shower for another friend and as we were sitting together in the heat and nasty humidity outside, I kept thinking about how this could be the last. The last shower we go to together. The last girl time we spend together for quite some time. The last of this phase of our friendship as we know it. I try to put on the happy face, but at the same time I feel empty. Empty that I'm losing a great friend. Sure, she will still be there. Sure, she will only be a phone call away. But she won't be there to attend all the showers with me, watch the fireworks with me as our kids play. She won't be there in the same way she has been for many years. It will all change. It will be a different change. But I know we will still be friends, changes or no changes, gains or losses. We will be friends for life.
